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zavodilaterrariumThese rambles are either minimally edited or not edited from the original messages on Discord. Some of these... I don't think I'd word them the same now, but I'm too lazy to rewrite them properly.
Listed in chronological order. Goes back to about the start of 2025, because either I didn't rant much before then in the specific channel I sent these, or I just had a big gap.
Tone is labelled, if you want to avoid something that might upset you ('negative' is mostly anger). Fair warning that there's a bit more swearing than I usually use on DW.
sometimes i just feel so utterly sad that i can’t experience every good story
that i can’t save the people who are hurt, in fiction and reality
the type of sadness that makes you want to sit outside on a cold night and stare at the stars, slowly fading away into silence and gentle breezes, embracing the comforting solitude of feeling like nothing is wrong because nothing is happening
always feel weird thinking this but sometimes it's just genuinely hard to look at white ppl cause of the [allergy-induced] photophobia
like there's been times where my eyes would straight up hurt looking at pale skin in normal/bright light
just like how white shirts on summer days blind tf out of me
yeah school was ruff guys everybody wore the white shirts for uniform
i so desperately need to like. crawl into music. i am no longer satisfied with listening. I NEED IT UNDER MY SKIN
can i be like
the god of music
so all of it belongs to me and i do whatever i want with it
okay i mean half of what i'm asking for is the energy and drive to become a singer-songwriter-dancer-composer-musician-etc
but the other half is that i think it's really really really mean that i cna't just have music in my head at will so i don't have to have headphones or whatever (side bonus of being able to disrespect people even if they don't allow music)
tbh i hate killing characters
like i LOVE putting them through any and every torture
but
death ends them
unless there's some ghost/afterlife shit going on
like dude i don't want my little baby to DIE
i want to see them squirm and cry and crash out and kill someone else and form unhealthy attachments and be traumatised and make bad decisions
but they kinda gotta be alive for that
so like 50% of the time that i think up aus, i just bring the bitches back to life LMAOOO
like don't get me wrong, there are stories that make death work for them, that need death to work
doesn't mean it doesn't make me really sad to not get to keep puppetting them
unless i hate a character
then DIE
any "parent" who believes we should be grateful for the mere fact that they imposed life upon us — whether we be born in riches or abject poverty of all that is worth living for, whether we live or die in joy or deep, agonising regret — deserves naught more than to experience the crushing disappointment of all that could have been had the scum like them tried harder
yes, you may have suffered greatly for our sake
but that does not entitle you to gratitude from a being who never asked to exist, never asked for you as a parent
if you chose to have a child of your own will, then YOU CHOSE to take on that responsibility to raise that child
if you didn't want nor care for the kid in the first place, then that's even less reason that you be owed anything, because unless the child was predetermined to end up in someone else's care (someone who genuinely would care), then YOU and whoever else CAUSED this situation literally condemned this child to live a life empty of love and affection
you don't adopt a pet because you want the pet to serve you like a slave in return, you adopt a pet because you love animals and want it to have a good life
you might adopt/breed an animal for more practical reasons ofc especially if you live somewhere like a farm, but a reasonable person is not expecting this work animal to actually be grateful, at a base level this is a transactional relationship where the animal learns to work in exchange for a good life — in all reality, there is little to actually be grateful about here because there is established mutual benefit for work, unless you expect the animal to be grateful you chose them specifically, which is quite a gross and uncomfortable outlook
lol queue popped the moment i sent that
thanks for waiting patiently final fantasy fourteen online
thinking again how strange it is that there are people who genuinely believe afabs are naturally do not have body hair
it's something that is easily disproved in childhood if you've ever looked at a girl in your life
there have been many instances as a wee'un where i was like "damn, that girl got no/a lot of body hair, interesting"
being suspicious of someone’s identity because their name “isn’t spelled right” is CRAZY work when we’re looking at it from the perspective of a language that doesn’t even have the same WRITING SYSTEM AS THE NAME
transliteration (the act of writing sounds from a language using foreign writing systems) is NOT set in stone, and most official transliteration systems have only been in effect for a couple of decades at MOST, but even then, they are not MANDATORY for NAMES afaik
like
the most common way to transliterate ㅜ into english is “oo”, even though the official form is “u”
eg, (from my understanding) yoo joonghyuk is the “better for english readers” version, and yu junghyeok is based on official transliteration
same thing with pinyin being OFFICIAL for mandarin, but not the only way
some mandarin transliterations use “ts” and some use “c”
it’s really not that serious how someone chooses to transliterate their name
back on korean, i personally prefer official form because i find it easier to grasp the pronunciations, considering my background in learning spanish and japanese
but i know even a lot of koreans prefer the english-focused version
things are... weird. my brain really wants to latch onto people. i joke that it's parasocial, but it's not quite. i don't really feel like attaching myself to those who are that far out of reach. but if i actually do get to talk with them, get personal, suddenly it's like i want to crawl into their skin. it's happened quite a few times. it's not... exactly friendship. yes, i want to be friends with these people, but something about it isn't enough. maybe i'm hyperfixating on people or whatever. my brain tells me it's a romantic feeling. who knows. it's strange. i don't fantasise about any of them liking me, but i fantasise about the fantasy of liking them. i think that's too many layers away from being romantic, but i don't know enough about romance to say. i can't tell if i'm desperate for romance, or if it's just another in the list of stupid coping mechanisms and weird pastimes.
i really hate not having some kind of notable reaction to give to everything someone typed in a long msg with multiple topics
it makes it feel like i’m just ignoring half of what they just said
and i don’t want to give that impression, cause i did read it all
but i also don’t want to just go “mhm” to each individual thing as part of a response to a long msg
it’s fine for quickfire separate texts
but a longform post? idk just feels wrong
once again, gonna express my intense distain for isekai/timetravel/reincarnation/etc. where the love interests are explicitly young enough for an age gap to be predatory, but they never clarify precise how old the mc is supposed to be currently in their mind
i don't mind if the mc was decently old before the body possession, IF they have fully mentally regressed, but if they are not mentally regressed, then they MUST be of similar-enough age
there are enough stories in either ballpark (or that try to gain the benefits of both) that i'm not comfortable assuming anything
i'm gonna whinge and whine again
to any native english speaker who isn't used to hearing singular they/them and willingly vehemently hates it, i have one sentence:
boo-fucking-hoo, skill issue
for my 18 years of life, i have heard the singular they/them in an environment that knew little to nothing (or at least nothing good) about trans people
it was mainly to refer to unknown individuals, yes, but still singular and thus grammatically correct
if you "can't read" something because of singular they/them, and only for that reason, genuinely that's a skill issue
it's frankly no different than trying to explain what multiple men or multiple women are doing together, it's all contextual and a smart writer knows how to adjust
just git gud + L + ratio + the education system failed you + the people around you failed you + you failed yourself + stop being a prescriptivist when you don't even know what you're talking about + shoulda just learnt better english
i'd like to think i have some more credentials in saying this, as someone who was obnoxiously prescriptivist before and frankly i still haven't recovered from it
i'm the kind of person to try and say things in the accent of the original language while speaking english
sometimes i think of kissing brainrotted enbies under the moonlight and i think i should get psychological help
this person is such a loser and i’ve barely talked to them but sometimes the brain wants what it wants
it’s actually quite pathetic
hng
WHY DO I WANT TO GRAB THIS PERSON AND SHAKE THEM AROUND
i would say i’m glad i chatted with less people online when i was younger bc i would get cooked, but honestly this is a more recent problem
Honestly I'm still tweaking about most people in the comments adamantly failing to use they/them for the non-human non-gendered characters. Like bruh, the comic itself uses they/them CONSTANTLY. Do we need a HSR situation of having godly they/them be written as THEY/THEM every time???? This is Kris Deltarune all over again.
i watched a video criticising demon slayer (kimetsu no yaiba)
and i looked at the comments of a video that supposedly refuted the criticisms (haven't watched it)
now, it's been a long time since i watched demon slayer, and i never finished the anime or manga, so i can't say anything about accuracy for plot and whatever
but something that i have to complain about is this
the original video made the argument that insects could be associated with women, as the creator was trying to make the point that the distribution of breathing styles is annoying, like why do only women get styles like insects and love
the comments in the response video pissed me off, honestly, saying "how are insects feminine, what kind of baseless argument is that"
honestly, i think it's really fucking obvious how this conclusion could be made, people are just being obtuse on purpose
insects are small, which is associated with women as human women are usually shorter (not even talking about the whole societal attraction to young girls, ugh)
generally delicate, if i have to explain this i will strangle you
KNY emphasises butterflies more than other insects, and butterflies are associated with femininity. no matter how you spin it, they chose to do that
this one does depend how you spin it, but animal and plant themes are often 'feminine', like men are not going to get nature powers often. usually, only 'powerful' and large animals like lions are assigned to men. even spiders are majority women
pretending to cry in a situation where people would expect you to be upset isn't that weird, honestly
we know from court cases that people WILL judge you if you do not show the "appropriate" emotion
if only ffxiv could be my one and only love
ngl sometimes i think about what life would be like if i was more insane and started playing xiv when i was younger
on one hand, i’d get to experience older patches and see what the qol was like, which does interest me (this is dampened by knowing that the free trial was more limited back then)
on the other hand, i’d be sad if my warrior of light was any different to now
idk how different she would really be tho tbh
my preference in custom player characters has apparently been semi-consistent for at least 5 years
i'm watching a vid on "what do people consider cheating"
the first scenario is about if ur partner's socmed feed (particularly insta-type stuff) was majority hot people/thirst traps/sexual nudity/etc
i wouldn't consider that really cheating, but i don't think i'd want to date someone who's that into that stuff
i'm just not a very sexually inclined person, and i don't know if i'd romantically get along with someone who was
same with porn mags and videos
it's one thing to consume a bunch of pwp
but lots of purely sexual material?
idk
it's really not my thing at all
and those kinds of people don't tend to vibe with me
so
not cheating
but of other concern
i think that cheating is one of those things where
i believe that someone could change
but i'd never want to date a cheater
whether i'd be okay being their friend really depends on the situation in which they cheated
were they sober? were they going through a mental health crisis? were they being manipulated? what kind of cheating? how did they behave after cheating? do i otherwise like them as a person and friend?
obviously, someone who is overall good and pleasant will be a lot easier to accept even with a flaw
honestly i'm a little annoyed
i'm fine with jokes about me being a lesbian occasionally, and obviously i can joke about myself however i want, but i am not one
i am not attracted to women in a specifically sapphic way, just a queer way
i would not want to date someone who sees me as primarily a woman
even when i do joke like that, i much prefer the joke that i'm some kind of god or patron of lesbians, rather than a lesbian myself
i have nothing against lesbians, obviously, and i'm not worried i don't "deserve" the label as a genderqueer person
it just doesn't describe my experience
watched a video analysing someone's overwatch match bc they asked for advice
i wasn't really absorbing most of what i was looking at bc i'm not used to the visuals/ui so i noticed this from the comments, but the thing that stood out to me was the player ignoring their teammate's attempts ot reposition them, whether by providing the option to move via lift, or physically just leashing them somewhere
in any co-op game, if a teammate repositions you, really think about why before you decide to follow along or return to where you were before
in ffxiv, sometimes i accidentally move a party member outright incorrectly (probably misclick), but it's more likely that i just moved them late because i didn't notice things in time / second-guessed myself / waited to see if they'd move themselves and forgot to compensate for latency
now, it's not very common to get repositioned in ffxiv, whether in low or high level content, so it's not something most people have to think about — in fact, there's probably a big group of casual players who don't even know that healers have a reposition ability
there's already a group of players who do not know that scholar, a healer, has a tether healing ability from lv70 onwards
wrongfully assuming this tether is dangerous, they try to run away from it. they do not have the game knowledge to figure out what's happening, and they panic too much to notice that the tether is healing them + came from an ally
you can kinda tell if an something is from an ally or enemy
ffxiv uses aggro lines and i think sounds to notify you if something has started targeting you, with the lines visually changing colours to show if it's an ally or enemy (not sure about the sounds) (i'm pretty sure other people's aggro lines show too, but i don't remember if it's all the time, and it's not relevant here)
i believe it only shows if that ally's/enemy's last target was someone else, so an ally healing you multiple times or enemy attacking you multiple times without switching targets won't spawn a new aggro line? at least, that's how attacks work, the healing part is mostly only relevant if you're a tank, and i don't play tank enough to really remember
either way, i believe that the scholar's healing tether will generate an aggro line from their pet fairy, which is a bit hard to see in battle to be fair, but i do think that after playing with scholar enough times, you should notice they have a fairy, especially because all the fairy does is heal allies, and you SHOULD at least sometimes notice the aggro line from the fairy
Listed in chronological order. Goes back to about the start of 2025, because either I didn't rant much before then in the specific channel I sent these, or I just had a big gap.
Tone is labelled, if you want to avoid something that might upset you ('negative' is mostly anger). Fair warning that there's a bit more swearing than I usually use on DW.
[Negative] I wish I could consume every story
sometimes i just feel so utterly sad that i can’t experience every good story
that i can’t save the people who are hurt, in fiction and reality
the type of sadness that makes you want to sit outside on a cold night and stare at the stars, slowly fading away into silence and gentle breezes, embracing the comforting solitude of feeling like nothing is wrong because nothing is happening
[Neutral] Light sensitivity is... something, alright
always feel weird thinking this but sometimes it's just genuinely hard to look at white ppl cause of the [allergy-induced] photophobia
like there's been times where my eyes would straight up hurt looking at pale skin in normal/bright light
just like how white shirts on summer days blind tf out of me
yeah school was ruff guys everybody wore the white shirts for uniform
[Neutral-positive] I love music so much
i so desperately need to like. crawl into music. i am no longer satisfied with listening. I NEED IT UNDER MY SKIN
can i be like
the god of music
so all of it belongs to me and i do whatever i want with it
okay i mean half of what i'm asking for is the energy and drive to become a singer-songwriter-dancer-composer-musician-etc
but the other half is that i think it's really really really mean that i cna't just have music in my head at will so i don't have to have headphones or whatever (side bonus of being able to disrespect people even if they don't allow music)
[Neutral] I want my blorbos to suffer, not die!
tbh i hate killing characters
like i LOVE putting them through any and every torture
but
death ends them
unless there's some ghost/afterlife shit going on
like dude i don't want my little baby to DIE
i want to see them squirm and cry and crash out and kill someone else and form unhealthy attachments and be traumatised and make bad decisions
but they kinda gotta be alive for that
so like 50% of the time that i think up aus, i just bring the bitches back to life LMAOOO
like don't get me wrong, there are stories that make death work for them, that need death to work
doesn't mean it doesn't make me really sad to not get to keep puppetting them
unless i hate a character
then DIE
[Negative] Children do not owe undying gratitude just because you gave them life
any "parent" who believes we should be grateful for the mere fact that they imposed life upon us — whether we be born in riches or abject poverty of all that is worth living for, whether we live or die in joy or deep, agonising regret — deserves naught more than to experience the crushing disappointment of all that could have been had the scum like them tried harder
yes, you may have suffered greatly for our sake
but that does not entitle you to gratitude from a being who never asked to exist, never asked for you as a parent
if you chose to have a child of your own will, then YOU CHOSE to take on that responsibility to raise that child
if you didn't want nor care for the kid in the first place, then that's even less reason that you be owed anything, because unless the child was predetermined to end up in someone else's care (someone who genuinely would care), then YOU and whoever else CAUSED this situation literally condemned this child to live a life empty of love and affection
you don't adopt a pet because you want the pet to serve you like a slave in return, you adopt a pet because you love animals and want it to have a good life
you might adopt/breed an animal for more practical reasons ofc especially if you live somewhere like a farm, but a reasonable person is not expecting this work animal to actually be grateful, at a base level this is a transactional relationship where the animal learns to work in exchange for a good life — in all reality, there is little to actually be grateful about here because there is established mutual benefit for work, unless you expect the animal to be grateful you chose them specifically, which is quite a gross and uncomfortable outlook
lol queue popped the moment i sent that
thanks for waiting patiently final fantasy fourteen online
[Neutral] Girls have body hair, lmao
thinking again how strange it is that there are people who genuinely believe afabs are naturally do not have body hair
it's something that is easily disproved in childhood if you've ever looked at a girl in your life
there have been many instances as a wee'un where i was like "damn, that girl got no/a lot of body hair, interesting"
[Neutral] Name transliteration
being suspicious of someone’s identity because their name “isn’t spelled right” is CRAZY work when we’re looking at it from the perspective of a language that doesn’t even have the same WRITING SYSTEM AS THE NAME
transliteration (the act of writing sounds from a language using foreign writing systems) is NOT set in stone, and most official transliteration systems have only been in effect for a couple of decades at MOST, but even then, they are not MANDATORY for NAMES afaik
like
the most common way to transliterate ㅜ into english is “oo”, even though the official form is “u”
eg, (from my understanding) yoo joonghyuk is the “better for english readers” version, and yu junghyeok is based on official transliteration
same thing with pinyin being OFFICIAL for mandarin, but not the only way
some mandarin transliterations use “ts” and some use “c”
it’s really not that serious how someone chooses to transliterate their name
back on korean, i personally prefer official form because i find it easier to grasp the pronunciations, considering my background in learning spanish and japanese
but i know even a lot of koreans prefer the english-focused version
[Neutral] Romance as a misinterpretation of general fixation
things are... weird. my brain really wants to latch onto people. i joke that it's parasocial, but it's not quite. i don't really feel like attaching myself to those who are that far out of reach. but if i actually do get to talk with them, get personal, suddenly it's like i want to crawl into their skin. it's happened quite a few times. it's not... exactly friendship. yes, i want to be friends with these people, but something about it isn't enough. maybe i'm hyperfixating on people or whatever. my brain tells me it's a romantic feeling. who knows. it's strange. i don't fantasise about any of them liking me, but i fantasise about the fantasy of liking them. i think that's too many layers away from being romantic, but i don't know enough about romance to say. i can't tell if i'm desperate for romance, or if it's just another in the list of stupid coping mechanisms and weird pastimes.
[Neutral-negative] I want to reply to everything you say
i really hate not having some kind of notable reaction to give to everything someone typed in a long msg with multiple topics
it makes it feel like i’m just ignoring half of what they just said
and i don’t want to give that impression, cause i did read it all
but i also don’t want to just go “mhm” to each individual thing as part of a response to a long msg
it’s fine for quickfire separate texts
but a longform post? idk just feels wrong
[Negative] The dubious presence of age gaps in time-travel/reincarnation stories
once again, gonna express my intense distain for isekai/timetravel/reincarnation/etc. where the love interests are explicitly young enough for an age gap to be predatory, but they never clarify precise how old the mc is supposed to be currently in their mind
i don't mind if the mc was decently old before the body possession, IF they have fully mentally regressed, but if they are not mentally regressed, then they MUST be of similar-enough age
there are enough stories in either ballpark (or that try to gain the benefits of both) that i'm not comfortable assuming anything
[Negative] People who struggle with singular they/them
i'm gonna whinge and whine again
to any native english speaker who isn't used to hearing singular they/them and willingly vehemently hates it, i have one sentence:
boo-fucking-hoo, skill issue
for my 18 years of life, i have heard the singular they/them in an environment that knew little to nothing (or at least nothing good) about trans people
it was mainly to refer to unknown individuals, yes, but still singular and thus grammatically correct
if you "can't read" something because of singular they/them, and only for that reason, genuinely that's a skill issue
it's frankly no different than trying to explain what multiple men or multiple women are doing together, it's all contextual and a smart writer knows how to adjust
just git gud + L + ratio + the education system failed you + the people around you failed you + you failed yourself + stop being a prescriptivist when you don't even know what you're talking about + shoulda just learnt better english
i'd like to think i have some more credentials in saying this, as someone who was obnoxiously prescriptivist before and frankly i still haven't recovered from it
i'm the kind of person to try and say things in the accent of the original language while speaking english
[Neutral] Inexplicable desire to kiss idiots (this isn't about my crush, lol)
sometimes i think of kissing brainrotted enbies under the moonlight and i think i should get psychological help
this person is such a loser and i’ve barely talked to them but sometimes the brain wants what it wants
it’s actually quite pathetic
hng
WHY DO I WANT TO GRAB THIS PERSON AND SHAKE THEM AROUND
i would say i’m glad i chatted with less people online when i was younger bc i would get cooked, but honestly this is a more recent problem
[Negative-neutral] Misgendering in comic comment sections
Honestly I'm still tweaking about most people in the comments adamantly failing to use they/them for the non-human non-gendered characters. Like bruh, the comic itself uses they/them CONSTANTLY. Do we need a HSR situation of having godly they/them be written as THEY/THEM every time???? This is Kris Deltarune all over again.
[Negative] Are insects 'feminine'?
i watched a video criticising demon slayer (kimetsu no yaiba)
and i looked at the comments of a video that supposedly refuted the criticisms (haven't watched it)
now, it's been a long time since i watched demon slayer, and i never finished the anime or manga, so i can't say anything about accuracy for plot and whatever
but something that i have to complain about is this
the original video made the argument that insects could be associated with women, as the creator was trying to make the point that the distribution of breathing styles is annoying, like why do only women get styles like insects and love
the comments in the response video pissed me off, honestly, saying "how are insects feminine, what kind of baseless argument is that"
honestly, i think it's really fucking obvious how this conclusion could be made, people are just being obtuse on purpose
insects are small, which is associated with women as human women are usually shorter (not even talking about the whole societal attraction to young girls, ugh)
generally delicate, if i have to explain this i will strangle you
KNY emphasises butterflies more than other insects, and butterflies are associated with femininity. no matter how you spin it, they chose to do that
this one does depend how you spin it, but animal and plant themes are often 'feminine', like men are not going to get nature powers often. usually, only 'powerful' and large animals like lions are assigned to men. even spiders are majority women
[Neutral] Pretending to cry
pretending to cry in a situation where people would expect you to be upset isn't that weird, honestly
we know from court cases that people WILL judge you if you do not show the "appropriate" emotion
[Neutral] If I'd played FFXIV earlier
if only ffxiv could be my one and only love
ngl sometimes i think about what life would be like if i was more insane and started playing xiv when i was younger
on one hand, i’d get to experience older patches and see what the qol was like, which does interest me (this is dampened by knowing that the free trial was more limited back then)
on the other hand, i’d be sad if my warrior of light was any different to now
idk how different she would really be tho tbh
my preference in custom player characters has apparently been semi-consistent for at least 5 years
[Neutral] Relationship cheaters
i'm watching a vid on "what do people consider cheating"
the first scenario is about if ur partner's socmed feed (particularly insta-type stuff) was majority hot people/thirst traps/sexual nudity/etc
i wouldn't consider that really cheating, but i don't think i'd want to date someone who's that into that stuff
i'm just not a very sexually inclined person, and i don't know if i'd romantically get along with someone who was
same with porn mags and videos
it's one thing to consume a bunch of pwp
but lots of purely sexual material?
idk
it's really not my thing at all
and those kinds of people don't tend to vibe with me
so
not cheating
but of other concern
i think that cheating is one of those things where
i believe that someone could change
but i'd never want to date a cheater
whether i'd be okay being their friend really depends on the situation in which they cheated
were they sober? were they going through a mental health crisis? were they being manipulated? what kind of cheating? how did they behave after cheating? do i otherwise like them as a person and friend?
obviously, someone who is overall good and pleasant will be a lot easier to accept even with a flaw
[Neutral] My relationship with the term 'lesbian'
honestly i'm a little annoyed
i'm fine with jokes about me being a lesbian occasionally, and obviously i can joke about myself however i want, but i am not one
i am not attracted to women in a specifically sapphic way, just a queer way
i would not want to date someone who sees me as primarily a woman
even when i do joke like that, i much prefer the joke that i'm some kind of god or patron of lesbians, rather than a lesbian myself
i have nothing against lesbians, obviously, and i'm not worried i don't "deserve" the label as a genderqueer person
it just doesn't describe my experience
[Neutral] Situational awareness in regards to teammates in video games
watched a video analysing someone's overwatch match bc they asked for advice
i wasn't really absorbing most of what i was looking at bc i'm not used to the visuals/ui so i noticed this from the comments, but the thing that stood out to me was the player ignoring their teammate's attempts ot reposition them, whether by providing the option to move via lift, or physically just leashing them somewhere
in any co-op game, if a teammate repositions you, really think about why before you decide to follow along or return to where you were before
in ffxiv, sometimes i accidentally move a party member outright incorrectly (probably misclick), but it's more likely that i just moved them late because i didn't notice things in time / second-guessed myself / waited to see if they'd move themselves and forgot to compensate for latency
now, it's not very common to get repositioned in ffxiv, whether in low or high level content, so it's not something most people have to think about — in fact, there's probably a big group of casual players who don't even know that healers have a reposition ability
there's already a group of players who do not know that scholar, a healer, has a tether healing ability from lv70 onwards
wrongfully assuming this tether is dangerous, they try to run away from it. they do not have the game knowledge to figure out what's happening, and they panic too much to notice that the tether is healing them + came from an ally
you can kinda tell if an something is from an ally or enemy
ffxiv uses aggro lines and i think sounds to notify you if something has started targeting you, with the lines visually changing colours to show if it's an ally or enemy (not sure about the sounds) (i'm pretty sure other people's aggro lines show too, but i don't remember if it's all the time, and it's not relevant here)
i believe it only shows if that ally's/enemy's last target was someone else, so an ally healing you multiple times or enemy attacking you multiple times without switching targets won't spawn a new aggro line? at least, that's how attacks work, the healing part is mostly only relevant if you're a tank, and i don't play tank enough to really remember
either way, i believe that the scholar's healing tether will generate an aggro line from their pet fairy, which is a bit hard to see in battle to be fair, but i do think that after playing with scholar enough times, you should notice they have a fairy, especially because all the fairy does is heal allies, and you SHOULD at least sometimes notice the aggro line from the fairy
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Date: 2026-02-23 22:26 (UTC)Re: "Girls have body hair, lmao" - omg, I used to read a community on LiveJournal called vaginapagina (it was a health community for AFAB folks) and the amount of clueless stories we heard...
like a male boss clueless about menstruation
like the boss who wouldn't let their AFAB employee go to the restroom when they were on their period because "he was sick of woman always using that as a excuse, why can't they just hold it?" and the employee had to explain that if they didn't go to the restroom NOW they would bleed onto the chair. Felt so sorry for that person!Re: "Name transliteration" - this could have been me when I was a young'un, sadly. I was uncomfortable with non-traditional names. I'm so glad the Internet happened which introduced me to a lot of different folks and now I don't even bat an eye at non-traditional names. I do get that what I'm saying now is a bit different from the point you were making, but I guess what I'm trying to say is that I think it's silly to argue over names. Gods, before FFVII Remake came out there used to be "Is it 'Aeris' or 'Aerith'?" arguments and JUST STOP, PEOPLE.
Re: "Romance as a misinterpretation of general fixation" - I get that. Like, I call myself bi, and I *think* I am, because I tend to fall deep into friendships but I have done the thing where I go "was I in love with my best friend in college or did I just really enjoy talking to her?" I'm still not sure! Relationships are tricky and weird, even if they are platonic ones.
Re: "The dubious presence of age gaps in time-travel/reincarnation stories" - yeah, I would be squicked by that, too.
Re: "People who struggle with singular they/them" and "Misgendering in comic comment sections" - 100% agree. I mean, I'm not perfect, being a lady of a middle age who grew up in a different era; I still sometimes slip up and will use "she" sometimes for AFAB enbies, but I nearly always catch and correct myself, and I'm getting much better about using singular "they" if I don't know the person's gender. It's not that hard! And even if it WERE hard, it's still worth doing. People's pronouns are important.
Re: "My relationship with the term 'lesbian'" - hmm, I am colored by my own history and upbringing here. My so-called high school friends liked to "joke" that I was a lesbian, but back then, it was absolutely meant negatively. I was a very late bloomer (didn't have my first kiss until 21, didn't start dating seriously until I was 23) and it took me years to figure out my identity. Now I"m pretty comfortable saying I'm bi, and sometimes will think to myself "and maybe even pan?" Anyway, I know my experience is much different than yours, but I think I get why it annoys you. You know yourself best, after all, and if 'lesbian' is not the right term for you, then it's not the right term.
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Date: 2026-02-23 22:56 (UTC)Something I find funny about singular they/them, is that my mother, who does try to gender my friends and I correctly, sometimes accidentally uses they/them for my sister, who I'm pretty sure doesn't use those pronouns XD